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Jessica Bolyard

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Every Good Thing

August 13, 2014 by Jessica Bolyard 8 Comments

It was supposed to be our errand-running day before she started school. We had places to go and things to do, and I had planned on taking full advantage of the entire day by leaving the house early to get everything done. The night before, I had laid out a detailed agenda for the day  – which stores we needed to go to, which coupons would be for which stores, where we would go first. Everything was planned. She was up, breakfast was done, and we were nearly out the door when my phone dinged. I picked it up on my way to the car, glancing down only long enough to see the text message that had just come in. In it were a few simple words from my husband:

 

Our weekend activities had left my daughter’s car seat in my husband’s car, and he had taken it all the way to work with him. With no spare car seat, we couldn’t go anywhere. We were stuck at home.

I’m not proud to admit that I didn’t handle it well. I grumbled something about the inconvenience and huffed a bit as I tossed my keys back onto the counter. I took a deep breath, though, and – reminding myself that there wasn’t anything I could do about it and that no one was at fault – I resigned myself to the change in plans.

I walked into the family room, where my daughter was putting her shoes on.

“Well………do you want to play the cupcake game?” I laughed the forced laugh of someone trying not to cry, and she – excited to be freed from the bondage of adult errands – eagerly grabbed her princess cupcake game and began setting it up on the kitchen table.

 

She was starting school two days later, and that very night we were going to her kindergarten open house. Our long, relatively lazy days of summer were coming to an end. Not only that, though, but our school year was going to look very different. Only now, a week later, can I fully appreciate that. She is gone for eight hours every day, and the truth is that I really don’t get much time with her. It’s the reality of mothering a school-aged child, but I see now that what I saw as a terrible inconvenience just a week ago was actually an incredible gift. It was the gift of time – unstructured, lazy, quality time before our family plunged headfirst into a totally new season of life. And there’s nothing God could have given us that would have been better.

 

I wish I could say that my head and my heart were totally into the game-playing and picture-painting and cookie-baking we did that day. I knew that grumbling about my messed-up plans wouldn’t change anything. I understood that it was just one of those things that happen sometimes. I certainly realized that it was just one of life’s inevitable curve balls. Those things are hard for me to just accept, though, and it took constant reminding that day for me to keep my head and my heart focused. The truth was that the day – while not at all what I had planned nor what I thought we needed – was the perfect gift. People always say that the best gift you can give someone is the very thing they would never get for themselves. God, I think, understands that better than anyone.

Friend, I don’t know where you are today. I don’t know what sorts of unexpected kinks have popped into your plans, whether for the day or the week or the year. I don’t know how your story might be shaping up differently than you imagined. What I do know, though, is that every inconvenience holds a blessing, because every day is in God’s hands.

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As we baked cookies together last week on our unexpected day at home, the song “Every Good Thing” by the Afters came on the radio. I smiled as I watched my soon-to-be kindergartener lick the beaters. Yes……every good thing – even if it doesn’t look good right away – comes from above.

 

 

 

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  1. 1

    Jennifer says

    August 13, 2014 at 9:17 am

    I can so relate to this! My daughter starts school next week and it is killing me. I want to squeeze in all the bucketlist plans but she just wants to stay home. I need to savor this week! Thank you!

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      Jessica says

      August 14, 2014 at 9:20 am

      I know! As mamas we feel this need to run, run, run – do, do, do – but kids just have a desire to be, be, BE. 🙂 Take it all in and anticipate good things for this upcoming school year. Blessings on you both today! Enjoy it!

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    Shelly Miller says

    August 13, 2014 at 9:40 am

    I love this Jessica and really, its a kind of sacred echo for me. As much as we like to plan and order our days, God reminds us that He is in charge of them. And where he orders life, meaning that was once hidden is revelation. I can’t think of a better gift from interruption, yes?

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      Jessica says

      August 14, 2014 at 9:19 am

      Yes, yes, YES. Interruption feels like nothing more than inconvenience, but it takes a special consciousness to see past the obvious. Traffic jams, sick children, car repairs…..all of it can be seen in a different light if we allow ourselves to see it that way.

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    Mindy Rogers says

    August 13, 2014 at 9:44 am

    I am in tears reading this Jessica. My daughter starts Kinder in a week and everything about this speaks so me. Thank you for sharing!

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      Jessica says

      August 14, 2014 at 9:17 am

      {{{HUGS}}} to you, Mindy. It’s hard, isn’t it? The good news I can report is that our kids adapt better than we do, and it’s an exciting new adventure for the whole family. Hang on – be strong – and know that it’s okay to have those conflicting emotions. Thanks for commenting – blessings to your family as you get ready for this new season!

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    MissyB says

    August 13, 2014 at 10:49 am

    I can totally relate to this story seeing as I sent my daughter off yesterday for the start of her senior year. It is true that the little moments often mean the most and I so appreciate your gentle reminder. God bless you and your family.

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      Jessica says

      August 14, 2014 at 9:15 am

      Wow, Missy…senior year. I can’t even fathom that at this point. What a big year! Thanks for stopping by and commenting – blessings for you and your family today!

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